Responsibility is a big term and one I have often misinterpreted. I’ve always felt that at the end of the day, I’ve taken responsibility for my actions or lack thereof. Umm…it turns out that I didn’t understand the definition of the word. There are actually 3 definitions according to Merriam-Webster…
Responsibility – 1) The state of being the person who caused something to happen, 2) A duty or task that you are required or expected to do, 3) Something that you should do because it is morally right, legally required, etc.
“To Blame” – is to place fault. I got those two definitions confused and found fault in everything I did rather than accepting responsibility. I accepted fault. Let that sink in for a moment. It took me a while to grasp the concept. I am responsible for maintaining my health, I am responsible for cleaning my house, I am responsible for my actions towards others, I am responsible for my job and business growth. Being responsible for something means that it is your duty to achieve what it is you expect or desire of you in all areas of your life. That is truly a hard concept. In many ways it makes me feel like I am responsible for my current status in life. My thoughts, words and actions have ultimately molded my life in some form or fashion.
In my faith I have not diligently sought God. I have not consistently maintained my daily devotional and prayer to Him. I am responsible for this and in order to change my relationship with God, I must take the necessary actions.
In my family, I have not spent the quality time with them enjoying their presence. I have not attended my children’s sports as much as I’d like. I have often felt under appreciated and acted in a mean or unhappy way. I have yelled when the house is a mess or when the kids do something wrong or when my husband doesn’t tell me things he’s done or planning to do. In order to create an atmosphere in my home which is pleasant and spend quality time with my family…I must take action.
In fitness, I have spent entirely too much time running and working out that it at one point was an obsession. I was burnt out and worn down physically. There is a fine line between healthy fitness habits and obsessive fitness habits. I had to take action in order to achieve the health I desire.
“Leadership is taking responsibility while others are making excuses.” – John Maxwell
Using a vice in order to run away or cope with emotional meltdowns or responsibilities has been an issue of mine. I know that drinking wine only made those situations worse and made others arise. I always blamed myself and accepted fault after a drunken episode, but actually taking responsibility didn’t happen until recently. You see, taking responsibility means that you have an obligation to change. In order to accept responsibility, I have to own that it is up to me to make changes so things are different in the future. I am not saying that issues won’t come up where I may want to drink, but how I respond to those issues is my responsibility.
Once I realized the difference between responsibility and blame…my entire outlook changed. I realize that responsibility is actually a gift. It is the opportunity for me to objectively look at a situation and see how my actions may effect an outcome. It is my ability to take ownership and control of how I think and act to any given situation. It is a lifestyle change. Doesn’t that sound great? Are there situations or areas in your life that could use some tweaking?
“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.” – John Maxwell
Luke 10:27 – And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.
Proverbs 28:13 – He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh [them] shall have mercy.